Happy Motivational Monday! In the famous words of Sam Cooke, “a change gon’ come!” Are you ready?

A friendly reminder on this crisp snowy Monday, that as we grow, we evolve & change. There is a transformative element to change when we make room for it in our lives. Doors & windows can open as we close doors & windows on other things, people, place or activities that are no longer serving their purpose/have completed serving their purpose in our lives.

As we make room for the new changes in our lives, it can get uncomfortable. It can feel foreign & cause you to be unsure about the choices you are making to make that change. Faith it till you make it! Look forward to the unknown with a brave spirit. Easier said than done, I know. I love a good challenge but when the outcomes are unclear & you feel like you’re going into it blindly, you most likely are. You won’t always know or have an idea as to what you’ll get, & that’s life. What we can take comfort in, as I often do, is trust the feeling you have when you make the decision to make the step in change. Do you feel good about the change? Is it keeping with your standards of Self Love, Self Value, & Self Care? A great way that can help you see if the change is right for you, is to list the Pros & Cons of the choice you’re about to make for that change. I was recently reminded of this & while it seems so basic it’s actually really profound. Is the Pro side longer or shorter than the Con side of the list? Depending on which list is longer you can see the benefit of your choice to make the necessary changes in your life & proceed with less apprehension or maybe even none👍🏾.

Trust the process, seek trusted guidance, & make the decision that is right for you. A change gon’ come, as change is the most constant thing in Life. When we make the decision to make the positive changes in our lives that we need to, we open the door (& sometimes window) for the positive opportunities, habits, & people that you need in your life. How will you move forward in confidence when it comes to change? Feel free to share in the comments! Love yourself & be yourself. Peace & love ❤💫

“The only thing, constant in the world, is change; that’s why each day I take Life as it comes.” – India Arie

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Happy Wellness Wednesday: Self Care is the theme of the Year!

Hi my loves!

Over the weekend I had the amazing opportunity to join some amazing ladies for the Fresh Start Rejuvenation retreat facilitated by the lovely Maxine Blagrove from Live Well with Maxine!

2 1/2hours north of Toronto, my daughter & I were given the opportunity to spend the weekend at the JW Marriott hotel to attend this amazing retreat & delve into some serious Self Care! The weekend was full of tips & activities that kept us in check when it comes to taking care of ourselves. And lately, I have been lacking in that area. I’d been having a hard time carving out time for myself lately & this retreat couldn’t have come at a better time. It forced me to not only come out of my comfort zone & make a long drive to an unknown place, but it also made me take a good long look at myself, where I am, & where I want to be. While I do take my own advice on how to regain & maintain that inner Peace, it gets to be tough when your plate becomes too full. That has been my life for the last little while (hence the lack of posting here, sorry guys). So when I got the chance to attend the retreat, I took it. My window was opened & I needed to go through. I’m so glad I did.

The time with the ladies (& my lil lady) at the retreat was well needed. We listened to each others stories, shared loads of laughter & at times, tears. We grooved our way through our lived experiences to Afrobeats with Sanaaj from AFIWI Groove, we posted our good vibes & intentions on vision boards, we ate gourmet food, learned more & more about self care with the lovely Maxine & Karen, & the girl talk, ohhhh the good ol’ girl talk. We got it all in & left the retreat feeling refreshed & ready to walk confidently in our Fresh Starts!

There are so many blessings I received on this trip. The most important one is to remember that I am worthy & deserve to make space for myself. This is so important when it comes to your inner Peace, as we must make the effort to cultivate it, make time for its nurturing & growth. If we crowd ourselves with too many external commitments & tasks, & not make time or space for ourselves to replenish, we do ourselves a disservice & end up in miserable & depressed states, and many times not even know it. I initially wasn’t going to this retreat. I didn’t have babysitter for my daughter & I was concerned that the cost was out of my budget. But in true Fresh Start fashion, an opportunity arose & instead of overthinking it I went forward & jumped at the chance. And my daughter was able to join us which was an even bigger bonus & blessing! She witnessed the coming together of women that are invested in their personal growth & helping others along their journeys as well😊

My encouragement to you today is to make time for your Self Care. When provided with the chance to develop your Self Care routine, such as a bubble bath or taking a nature walk, gym time or meditation, whatever it is that brings you Peace & Joy, make time to do it. It is so crucial along this journey of Peace(ful)ness. Today, I make time for me, to be present for me, to be vulnerable with me, & to Love me. One of my favourite things to do is journaling, so tonight I will make time to journal before bed. It’s a great way to clear my mind & put things into perspective in time for another new day ahead.

How will you make time for your Self Care & Love in 2019? Feel free to leave your Self Care activities & suggestions in the comments! Love yourself & be yourself. Peace & Love❤💫

Wellness Wednesday: Take a deep breath😌 & Let’s Talk #bellletstalk

Happy Wellness Wednesday! Dress as warm as you can today folks, it’s a cold one!

Today’s Wellness Wednesday reminder is one that I literally gave myself recently: Remember to breathe.

When was the last time you took a deep inhale & exhale? Today, remember to take some deep breaths. It clears the mind, reduces stress, increases the oxygen levels in your bloodstream, lowers blood pressure, & increases the feeling of inner Peace & calm.

I noticed lately that I have been holding my breath again. Becoming more concious of my body & what it needs to stay healthy, I began to recognize that I hadn’t been deep breathing, you know, those deep belly breaths that push your tummy out while out inhale & shrink it while you exhale. I hadn’t been doing it enough. It was then that I recognized that I’m holding in a lot of stress. Being a single mother, working every day, managing my own business on the side, & staying involved in my community, all while doing my best to be a good sister, daughter, & friend, & make time for myself to explore new ventures & participate in my own personal hobbies, it gets to be a lot to say the least. Running on what feels like “E” I noticed that I’m feeling overwhelmed in some areas of my life. And when that happens, I notice my breaths become shorter & my stomach starts to act up (I used to suffer from GERD, Gastroesophageal Refulx Disease, with severe nausea & bloating). These two signs are telling me that I’m becoming task oriented & something needs to give.

I know many of us are all too familiar with that way of living. It’s not always good way to live life. While it feels good to tick off “DONE” next to tasks on your To-Do lists, where do you fit in on that list? Where are your moments of Peace & calm that you need to stay focused on what’s important & keep balanced?

First things first, Breathe. Today, take a few moments throughout the day to pause & take a deep breath. Start right now with me: Inhale through your nose & feel the air filling your lungs & your tummy expand; hold for 4 seconds, then slowly release through your mouth, pursed lips or a big “ahhhhhhh” sound, it doesn’t really matter, just slowly release.l the breath. Do this up to 5 times. How do you feel? I definitely feel more calm & Peace(ful) vibes putting me into a healthier mental space. I always envision Life, Love, & positive vibes filling my body when I do deep breath exercises. On exhalation, I envision negative vibes, stress, & anxiety being released from every fiber of my being, making more room for the Peace(ful)ness that I need to function on a higher level. This is my favourite way to rebalance myself during the day especially when I’m short on time to pull out my journal or yoga mat to really get into a full practice of releasing tension, stress, & anxiety. It’s easy, effective, & oh so centering!

So with that being said, next, let’s talk. Today being Bell Let’s Talk day that encourages people to talk about their mental health & struggles, feel free to talk to a trusted friend or loved one or even a professional counselor or therapist, to help you stay on track. Sometimes a good venting session is all you need, to get your pent up feelings out & hear them out loud so you know what do with them, if not for the simple act of releasing them from your space.

Talking/venting to yourself is a great way as well to release what’s on your mind. I know it sounds funny but honestly, I make a lot of head-way & clear my inner space when I speak to myself about what I’m going through, opening myself up to positive pep talks & self-loving words that bring me back to my inner Peace.

If you are a spiritual or religious person, prayer is also a great way to get things off your chest. And when I say prayer, I mean talking to Almighty/Creator/Higher Power, or however you identify or acknowledge the Almighty in whichever way you know how & feel comfortable doing, regardless of your religion or spiritiual beliefs.

All in all, remember to Love yourself through it all. You are worthy of it. You deserve to be loved & feel love. Be gentle while you learn & re-learn effective strategies to help you along the way of your Peace(ful) journey. It’s all a process as we grow & become our best selves.

Love yourself & be yourself. Peace & love ❤💫

Happy Motivational Monday! Where’s the potential?🤔

Happy Motivational Monday 😊

If you’re feeling anything like me, boy oh boy is 2019 moving fast! That being said, what are some things that you’re hoping to achieve this year? In looking forward does it mean we discredit what’s passed? Nope! With so many lessons to learn from, we can look back in optimism & draw from it what we need to further our current potential. So, what say you for 2019?

In retrospect of times passed, I have found that there are many things that I could learn from & bring those lessons into the present. While some of those experineces may have been painful & at times you wish you could go back & change it, you know you can’t. So, why not make it to your benefit?

I recently took a mini-road trip with my daughter & visited the college where my official Nursing education started👩🏾‍⚕️👩🏾‍🎓. It was an amazing time in my life, with it’s ups & downs, where I discovered my womanhood & learned so much about trust, love, friendship, independence, & of course, Nursing! Walking through the halls & library, it brought back alot of memories & helped me remember the high levels of potential I felt within myself at that time. I had my whole life ahead of me to start & the freedom to shap any way I chose to. I was excited, nervous, & scared all at the same time! Fast forward to the here & now, walking down memory lane with my mini-me, I was further inspired by her potential, watching her as she pretended to be a student there, looking through the library shelves & telling me all the careers she is thinking of studying for. (“Mommy look at me! I’m studying!”) 🤓

What we go through can one day help us to serve others. From pain can come beauty. From struggle can come art. I say all this to remind you (& myself), that we can look back with Love & Forgiveness, & yet always move forward in positivity.

Love yourself & be yourself. Peace & Love ❤💫

Wellness Wednesday: Give it Love😍

Happy Wellness Wednesday 😊

What a Winter Wonderland it is out there today! This new blanket of snow is a beauty to see, just please be safe in the roads today, whether you’re driving or on public transit. We made it to another new day, so let’s give it Love❤

Today’s Wellness Wednesday reminder comes from a message that reminded me of something very important to maintain that inner Peace. How easy is it to start the trek down the rabbit hole of despair, sadness, past mistakes, etc, & unpack there? Very easy! That’s the temptation we have to avoid: getting comfortable in these darker moments & setting up shop like, ” Ahhh comfort, I know this groove & it’s so comfortable. This is where it’s at!!!” Nah, boo, it ain’t.

Instead, see the pain, sadness, despair, & mistakes for what they are, feel what they are, & use the rabbit hole as an opportunity to Give them all Love. A little Love leads to a smile to hug to a happy moment, then to Joy

Where in your life do you need to inject more Love? What parts of your life’s experiences require more Love if not already done so?

That being said, that is my mantra for today & everytime I feel as if those dark places are trying to rear their ugly heads: GIVE IT LOVE❤ It brings so much Peace.

Love yourself & be yourself. Peace & Love ❤💫

Blessed Motivational Monday🌨 When faced with the “Cold temps” of Life, how do we prepare for the Heat 🏖

Blessed day my loves😘 What a frigid weekend in the City! Today’s temperatures are supposed to dip below 20°C so please bundle up as much as you can😨

That being said, the Winter brings cold, cold, & more cold. Did I mention it’s cold? Lol! As you can tell I don’t fancy the Winter weather that much, although I do like to skate, sleigh, & ski. If you’re anything like me, you’re waiting for Summer temps & sipping lemonade on a hot afternoon, with the option of kicking back or getting into some Summer fun!

Learning lessons through Mother Nature, when the Cold weather hits & we’re forced to seek warm shelter & comfort foods, take a look at how life is preparing you for something you need to be ready for! While we wait for warmer weather, we attempt to exercise more, eat cleaner foods, & we essentially prepare ourselves for what’s to come. I often ask myself this question, especially when faced with the “cold temps” of Life & I just want some more warmth, “What am being prepared for? What work stil needs to be done?” Giving myself that chance to explore while on the “indoors” of my Spirit, I get to see what work needs to get done so I can propel to my next level when the moment comes. I journal, I stock up on more fruits & veggies & healthy snacks, I pray & meditate more frequently, foster friendships & connections with others, put time into projects that need work & attention, making plans for an exciting Spring & Summer ahead (Almighty willing). Of course, it’s easy to get down on yourself when you find yourself in Cold season of your Life. No need to let it get you too down though, because just like the Winter, this will also pass & brighter & warmer lie ahead. What do you do to prepare yourself for the warmer seasons of your Life? Send your strategies in the comments!

Keep warm! Love yourself & be yourself. Peace & Love ❤💫

p.s. wasn’t last night’s Full Moon a gorgeous sight?! Many great things are in store, I can feel it!

-last night’s Full Moon, photo courtesy: moi😘

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Wellness Wednesday: Fill your cup….☕

Happy Wellness Wednesday 😍

You know that demonstration that the flight attendants give during take-off, where they show you how to put on your oxygen mask first then to the person next to you? This is so you can have enough oxygen to help the next person. Basically, Fill Your Cup first.

We can only pour from what is filled. Remind yourself daily through positive self affirmations & thinking well about yourself, being gentle with yourself, & just overall giving yourself the Love that you give to others. You are worthy of it.

When we don’t replenish our inner environments, we lose our Peace. We become everything to everyone, leaving ourselves out to dry & sometimes not even realizing it. Below are some positive self affirmations that you can use to help you fill your cup along your Peace(ful) journey. I use these too & find them helpful when I feel like I’m running on “E.”

“I am Love.”

“I am worthy of being treated with love & respect.”

“I have everything I need right here within.”

“I am enough.”

You can also schedule time for yourself to be with yourself. Get into a good book. Make a hot cup of coco & actually drink & enjoy it while it’s still warm (I can’t tell you the cups of tea that I forgot about from being too busy to even drink it while it’s still hot). Schedule a day in the week for yourself to do something you like doing. It doesn’t have to be extravagant, even going to the gym can be it. It just has to be something that brings you back to yourself so you can feel the fullness of being you, & ready to go again for another day.

For me, I have dedicated Wednesdays to be my Wellness & Writing nights, where I make a point to do some form of exercise (preferably Yoga) & make time to write (journalling, stories, poetry, etc). It makes a huge difference when it comes to giving back to me, and making sure I have what I need for myself after taking care of others all day. What do you like doing that can replenish your Peace? Share in the comments!

Have an amazing Wellness Wednesday my loves!😘 Love yourself & be yourself. Peace & Love ❤💫

“You have to fill your cup. You then give away the overflowing, but you keep a cupful for yourself.” – Wynonna Judd

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