Wellness Wednesday: Be in the Now!

It’s a new day! If you felt down yesterday, today is a perfect time to change that. What we felt in the past doesn’t mean we have to feel it in the now. We have the power to change our reality with just a simple thought. When we focus on what we are looking to achieve, we give it life & room to grow. We give it the attention that is needed to thrive & flourish.

There is so much that we miss when we worry about things we can’t change, living in anxiety about the past & worry about the future….I know that stuggle all too well & still struggle with it from time to time. Being human means accepting that we are not perfect but that we strive daily to love in our greatness, to live & love as our best selves.

Today I encourage you as encourage myself to do the same, to live in the present moment & give thanks for the gifts it has to offer. If you find yourself struggling with practicing living in the moment, the easiest & quickest way to get back to the here & now is Gratitude. My favourite way to get rid of anxiety & feel better about things that may not be going as I hoped in my life is to make a Gratitude list. You can make the list in your head or on your phone or in a notebook, or even on a sticky note that you can post somewhere visible, reminding you to always give thanks for what it is that you do have, knowing that you are taking the steps you need to reach your goals & maintain your inner Peace.

Have a blessed day my loves & always remember to love yourself & be yourself. Peace & Love ❤💫

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Motivational Monday – Big girls & big boys don’t cry! Or do they?🤔

Blessed day my loves😍 I hope we all had productive & restful weekends. Today’s Motivation is to inspire you to let yourself feel what you need to feel so you can be who you need to be on your journey, while expressing gratitude along the journey. If that means tears need to fall every now & again, then so be it. “Tears are the water to the soul,” is what came to me in a meditation one day, & I firmly believe that after a good cry, we rise up with a feverence to keep pushing forward regardless of the circumstances.

The common narrative is that after a certain age or milestone in life, we as adults aren’t supposed to cry unless it’s because of extenuating circumstances. But what about when those feelings of being overwhelmed or being unheard, or hopelessness, or sever confusion? What happens when you can’t feel like you can express yourself? Sometimes the tears are needed to let all those feelings & emotions flow, all the way out. Let it out so you can let it go. I had my moment with that this weekend, when I woke up Sunday morning with tears streaming down my face. Out of no where, I was just sobbing. I’m still not totally sure why I was crying, but for a moment I wanted to stiffle the tears & keep it quiet, didn’t want my daughter to over hear if she was awake. “But when was the last time I had a good cry,” I asked myself. I couldn’t remember, so I just let it out. Silent sobs & warm tears. In that moment of the Sunday morning peace & quiet, whatever needed to get out needed to come out & that it did. And it didn’t last too long but when it was done I felt lighter, releasing what needed to be released & I went right into a deep prayer of thanksgiving for all that I have.

Today, I encourage you to let go of what you need to so you can make room for what you need in your space. Make room for yourself. Feel what you need to. When we block ourselves or others from allowing those feelings to fully be expressed, we inadvertently block ourselves from really examining & understanding what’s going on inside ourselves. Essentially, we avoid. And we all know what happens when we avoid important things: they find a way to make themselves known, & more than likely in ways that are not private for us to manage it as we want to. Outburst of tears in the grocery store aisle? Crying at the sight of a commercial? Triggers seemingly come out of no where & then it’s Niagara Falls on your face. The emotions are there to show us what we need to see about ourselves & our lives so we can address what needs addressing, what needs to stay & what needs relaesing. So, release. A good cry feels like that doesn’t it? A release of what has been building up, and lightening the emotional load you may be feeling so you can face your situations head on. Big girls & big boys do cry. Embrace all of you & do it all with Love.

Love yourself & be yourself. Peace & love ❤💫

Wellness Wednesday – Change is good!

Blessed risings my loves! Today marks the first day of Spring!🌱 Yay! Yet, it seems that Winter is getting her last hoorah with this crisp, minus-degree weather❄❄❄ But Spring is on her way!

As the seasons change we prepare ourselves for the next change in weather & temperatures. We know it’s coming at some point, that the change will arrive. Just like in life, our seasons change too, however, we often times tend cling to the familiar & old ways that we attach ourselves to. It got you this far, right?

Just like the Winter coats & boots & all those warm layers get packed away into the closet until they are needed again, the same can be said for our old habits, beliefs, or anything in our lives that need some reevaluation or rearranging. Change can be good & new or revamped thought processes, ideals, & belief systems have a chance to be explored & implenented if suitable. These good changes, while they may feel scary as the unknown can be, can help us boost our positive energy & increase our Inner Peace, as we let go of what no longer serves us & make way for a better experience, clearing the way for new opportunities that are for our own good.

No one said it would be easy or that you won’t feel afraid, but in these good changes we can make a choice to avoid until it smacks us in the face, or we can face them head on with a brave & confident Spirit.

So, as we wait for Spring, as we clear out our closets & change up our wardrobes for a new Season, let’s do the same with out hearts & minds, & embrace good changes with an open heart, cleared path, & brighter outlook on a new day. And as always, remember through it all, to Love yourself & be yourself. Peace & Love ❤💫

“The beautiful spring came; and when Nature resumes her loveliness, the human soul is apt to revive also.”- Harriet Ann Jacobs

Wellness Wednesday: Still waters run deep

Happy Wellness Wednesday!

Bundle up folks! Today’s a coooold one!

Although I’m on a bit of hiatus from posting regularly, I was inspired by the amazing views this weekend, especially of the river, & I wanted to share some encouragement with you this Wednesday morning. As the saying goes, “Still waters run deep.” While we may not see it on the surface, there is more to our journeys than what meets the eye. As we work on our Peace, cultivating it & nurturing it, the process can get messy at times & have rough undercurrents. Give yourself permission to go & grow through whatever it is that you are facing right now.

Watching the river, listening to the water moving under the ice (all that snow you see before the river? that is actually all ice, as the river is frozen over), learning about how to create safe boundaries so we could know where was safe to venture without hitting thinning ice, I though to myself: well, alright then, lessons upon lessons upon lessons are showing up to me in this one view. The lesson that first stuck out to me was this: while it may not be visible, there is always something going under the surface. There is always work being done on levels that you may not even realize. Yet, the signs are all around you, showing themselves tou, you just need to focus & pay attention. Allow yourself to see what you need to see, feel what you need to feel, grow through what you need to grow through, so that your true & best nature can shine through.

As human beings, we often try to avoid situations that are difficult, that bring up emotions that we dont want to deal with. While this can be helpful at times, when these emotions come up often, it’s the Universe sending you a message: look at it, face it, get deep, because you need to heal it. The healing process isn’t easy or necessarily quick, just like that river, with ice breaking off in thin spots, the water moves where it needs to, goes where it’s supposed to. Tough & trying situations gives us a chance to really examine ourselves, learn what works & what doesn’t, & provide us with a chance to gather the tools needed to get better & do better. Trust the process.

Have a great & warm day my loves!😘 Love yourself & be yourself. Peace & love ❤💫

Wellness Wednesday: Black History Month edition – Self Love❤🖤💚

Happy Hump Day on this Wellness Wednesday!

Today’s post is in celebration of Blak History Month, & I’m posting images & quotes to encourage & show love in the Black community❤🖤💚👊🏾

Let’s take care of ourselves so we can be full of unconditional love for ourselves & those around us. This is one of the best ways to cultivate our inner Peace. Have an awesome day my loves!❤💫👑

Wellness Wednesday: Winter is here for a lil longer…please be safe out there!

Please be safe out there today!

All that snow from yesterday is staying with us for a little while longer. Sending some early V-Day love & prayers for safe travels while the Winter storms come.

That being said, while we can prepare for some storms, there are some that we can’t. That’s when we have to roll with the punches. Yesterday, it was an official Snow Day, & while snowfall was anticipated, there was only so much prep that could go into staying ready for what was to come. That’s when super-survival mode kicks in & we look only at the necessities & leave certain luxuries to the side until the coast is clear.

In Life, this is how it can be sometimes & we just have to focus on what is most needed at the moment. Self preservation aka Self Care & Love, which is always needed. We give what we have to give & if we don’t make sure we have what we need, it makes it difficult to do for others. So, give yourself a random act of kindness today & pay it forward. Gift your neighbor some driveway salt if you notice they didn’t salt their driveway. Pay for the person’s coffee behind you in the line-up at the cafè. Let that other car in the lane. Today, give it all Love, being patient & giving attention to those & what need it most. Love yourself & be yourself. Peace & love ❤💫

“It is only in sorrow bad weather masters us; in joy we face the storm and defy it.”-Amelia Barr

Happy Motivational Monday! In the famous words of Sam Cooke, “a change gon’ come!” Are you ready?

A friendly reminder on this crisp snowy Monday, that as we grow, we evolve & change. There is a transformative element to change when we make room for it in our lives. Doors & windows can open as we close doors & windows on other things, people, place or activities that are no longer serving their purpose/have completed serving their purpose in our lives.

As we make room for the new changes in our lives, it can get uncomfortable. It can feel foreign & cause you to be unsure about the choices you are making to make that change. Faith it till you make it! Look forward to the unknown with a brave spirit. Easier said than done, I know. I love a good challenge but when the outcomes are unclear & you feel like you’re going into it blindly, you most likely are. You won’t always know or have an idea as to what you’ll get, & that’s life. What we can take comfort in, as I often do, is trust the feeling you have when you make the decision to make the step in change. Do you feel good about the change? Is it keeping with your standards of Self Love, Self Value, & Self Care? A great way that can help you see if the change is right for you, is to list the Pros & Cons of the choice you’re about to make for that change. I was recently reminded of this & while it seems so basic it’s actually really profound. Is the Pro side longer or shorter than the Con side of the list? Depending on which list is longer you can see the benefit of your choice to make the necessary changes in your life & proceed with less apprehension or maybe even none👍🏾.

Trust the process, seek trusted guidance, & make the decision that is right for you. A change gon’ come, as change is the most constant thing in Life. When we make the decision to make the positive changes in our lives that we need to, we open the door (& sometimes window) for the positive opportunities, habits, & people that you need in your life. How will you move forward in confidence when it comes to change? Feel free to share in the comments! Love yourself & be yourself. Peace & love ❤💫

“The only thing, constant in the world, is change; that’s why each day I take Life as it comes.” – India Arie

Happy Wellness Wednesday: Self Care is the theme of the Year!

Hi my loves!

Over the weekend I had the amazing opportunity to join some amazing ladies for the Fresh Start Rejuvenation retreat facilitated by the lovely Maxine Blagrove from Live Well with Maxine!

2 1/2hours north of Toronto, my daughter & I were given the opportunity to spend the weekend at the JW Marriott hotel to attend this amazing retreat & delve into some serious Self Care! The weekend was full of tips & activities that kept us in check when it comes to taking care of ourselves. And lately, I have been lacking in that area. I’d been having a hard time carving out time for myself lately & this retreat couldn’t have come at a better time. It forced me to not only come out of my comfort zone & make a long drive to an unknown place, but it also made me take a good long look at myself, where I am, & where I want to be. While I do take my own advice on how to regain & maintain that inner Peace, it gets to be tough when your plate becomes too full. That has been my life for the last little while (hence the lack of posting here, sorry guys). So when I got the chance to attend the retreat, I took it. My window was opened & I needed to go through. I’m so glad I did.

The time with the ladies (& my lil lady) at the retreat was well needed. We listened to each others stories, shared loads of laughter & at times, tears. We grooved our way through our lived experiences to Afrobeats with Sanaaj from AFIWI Groove, we posted our good vibes & intentions on vision boards, we ate gourmet food, learned more & more about self care with the lovely Maxine & Karen, & the girl talk, ohhhh the good ol’ girl talk. We got it all in & left the retreat feeling refreshed & ready to walk confidently in our Fresh Starts!

There are so many blessings I received on this trip. The most important one is to remember that I am worthy & deserve to make space for myself. This is so important when it comes to your inner Peace, as we must make the effort to cultivate it, make time for its nurturing & growth. If we crowd ourselves with too many external commitments & tasks, & not make time or space for ourselves to replenish, we do ourselves a disservice & end up in miserable & depressed states, and many times not even know it. I initially wasn’t going to this retreat. I didn’t have babysitter for my daughter & I was concerned that the cost was out of my budget. But in true Fresh Start fashion, an opportunity arose & instead of overthinking it I went forward & jumped at the chance. And my daughter was able to join us which was an even bigger bonus & blessing! She witnessed the coming together of women that are invested in their personal growth & helping others along their journeys as well😊

My encouragement to you today is to make time for your Self Care. When provided with the chance to develop your Self Care routine, such as a bubble bath or taking a nature walk, gym time or meditation, whatever it is that brings you Peace & Joy, make time to do it. It is so crucial along this journey of Peace(ful)ness. Today, I make time for me, to be present for me, to be vulnerable with me, & to Love me. One of my favourite things to do is journaling, so tonight I will make time to journal before bed. It’s a great way to clear my mind & put things into perspective in time for another new day ahead.

How will you make time for your Self Care & Love in 2019? Feel free to leave your Self Care activities & suggestions in the comments! Love yourself & be yourself. Peace & Love❤💫

Wellness Wednesday: Take a deep breath😌 & Let’s Talk #bellletstalk

Happy Wellness Wednesday! Dress as warm as you can today folks, it’s a cold one!

Today’s Wellness Wednesday reminder is one that I literally gave myself recently: Remember to breathe.

When was the last time you took a deep inhale & exhale? Today, remember to take some deep breaths. It clears the mind, reduces stress, increases the oxygen levels in your bloodstream, lowers blood pressure, & increases the feeling of inner Peace & calm.

I noticed lately that I have been holding my breath again. Becoming more concious of my body & what it needs to stay healthy, I began to recognize that I hadn’t been deep breathing, you know, those deep belly breaths that push your tummy out while out inhale & shrink it while you exhale. I hadn’t been doing it enough. It was then that I recognized that I’m holding in a lot of stress. Being a single mother, working every day, managing my own business on the side, & staying involved in my community, all while doing my best to be a good sister, daughter, & friend, & make time for myself to explore new ventures & participate in my own personal hobbies, it gets to be a lot to say the least. Running on what feels like “E” I noticed that I’m feeling overwhelmed in some areas of my life. And when that happens, I notice my breaths become shorter & my stomach starts to act up (I used to suffer from GERD, Gastroesophageal Refulx Disease, with severe nausea & bloating). These two signs are telling me that I’m becoming task oriented & something needs to give.

I know many of us are all too familiar with that way of living. It’s not always good way to live life. While it feels good to tick off “DONE” next to tasks on your To-Do lists, where do you fit in on that list? Where are your moments of Peace & calm that you need to stay focused on what’s important & keep balanced?

First things first, Breathe. Today, take a few moments throughout the day to pause & take a deep breath. Start right now with me: Inhale through your nose & feel the air filling your lungs & your tummy expand; hold for 4 seconds, then slowly release through your mouth, pursed lips or a big “ahhhhhhh” sound, it doesn’t really matter, just slowly release.l the breath. Do this up to 5 times. How do you feel? I definitely feel more calm & Peace(ful) vibes putting me into a healthier mental space. I always envision Life, Love, & positive vibes filling my body when I do deep breath exercises. On exhalation, I envision negative vibes, stress, & anxiety being released from every fiber of my being, making more room for the Peace(ful)ness that I need to function on a higher level. This is my favourite way to rebalance myself during the day especially when I’m short on time to pull out my journal or yoga mat to really get into a full practice of releasing tension, stress, & anxiety. It’s easy, effective, & oh so centering!

So with that being said, next, let’s talk. Today being Bell Let’s Talk day that encourages people to talk about their mental health & struggles, feel free to talk to a trusted friend or loved one or even a professional counselor or therapist, to help you stay on track. Sometimes a good venting session is all you need, to get your pent up feelings out & hear them out loud so you know what do with them, if not for the simple act of releasing them from your space.

Talking/venting to yourself is a great way as well to release what’s on your mind. I know it sounds funny but honestly, I make a lot of head-way & clear my inner space when I speak to myself about what I’m going through, opening myself up to positive pep talks & self-loving words that bring me back to my inner Peace.

If you are a spiritual or religious person, prayer is also a great way to get things off your chest. And when I say prayer, I mean talking to Almighty/Creator/Higher Power, or however you identify or acknowledge the Almighty in whichever way you know how & feel comfortable doing, regardless of your religion or spiritiual beliefs.

All in all, remember to Love yourself through it all. You are worthy of it. You deserve to be loved & feel love. Be gentle while you learn & re-learn effective strategies to help you along the way of your Peace(ful) journey. It’s all a process as we grow & become our best selves.

Love yourself & be yourself. Peace & love ❤💫

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